Friday, February 14, 2014

To The World ... A Not So Romantic Valentine's Day

The Kiss by Hayez
Now before you begin to panic and start commenting responses of condolences let me explain. I used to - before my Mr. came into my life - half heartedly celebrated Valentine's Day. Some how this holiday always seemed to fall short on the romance meter but I never really wondered why. So one day - or several days - I really pondered the question "Why don't I LOVE this holiday ... I like flowers, candy and kisses?" "Why do I approach this day of love with such animosity?" And I figured it out! It's not romantic. Somehow pressuring - not by me but by society - a guy to creatively profess his love for me is not romantic. Or getting me the same flowers, candy and dinner on the same day that a trillion other women are getting theirs isn't romantic to me. I just don't get it. And frankly I am too special to treated as if I am "like every other woman". I have often have said that if my husband wants a divorce all he needs to do is come home with a box of chocolate and bundle of flowers on Valentine's Day. This even goes for the children. So there is no, non, niet Valentine's to be celebrated at my house! Now mind you I AM NOT anti-romance. I am a girl in every way and we girls LOVE our acknowledgements of endearment. But ladies define what you find to be romantic.

The End Of The Quest by Dicksee
Being woken up with a kiss good-bye every morning, my yard maintained, the way he never thinks twice of spending his free time with me, just they way he looks at me *sigh*, makes an ice cream run (even during half time on Super Bowl Sunday), cooks meals (even after he worked full day at the office) and a million other little things my Mr. does 365 days a year is romantic to me. So tonight when others are panic ridden and stressed about the gift they will present to their loved ones at an over crowed restaurant where they can't even hear each other talk just to hurry home to relieve the sitter and drop into bed because of the sheer exhaustion of the day - which all frankly fall short on the romance meter but high on the "not tonight honey I am exhausted" list -  I will be cuddled up with mine watching our favorite shows, having a wonderful home cooked meal, laughing at inside jokes and blissfully enjoying our happy marriage but then 10pm comes and we end like it began, lots of cuddling and a kiss and quiet whispers of good night.

So cut each other some slack - drop the one over hyped day and just enjoy your marriage 365. Become each others number one fan. If a couple spent a tenth of that energy on their marriage ...  WOW! what a fantastic relationship it would be and then there will be no need to celebrate one overly commercialized day. So save going out to a nice place or those perfect roses or that beautiful watch for your anniversary - a special day that belongs to just the two of you. Now doesn't that sound much more romantic?


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